Anal sex: how to prepare, rules, best positions

Anal sex – is very unique and requires much more attention to detail than traditional vaginal sex. For many people this kind of sex is considered taboo or forbidden because they consider it to be “unnatural” and uncomfortable! This kind of opinion, usually, can be heard from people who either have never tried anal sex or have done it wrong, resulting in a negative experience. In porn movies, anal sex is shown as something which can be done in the spot and without any preparation. When trying to do anal spontaneously and without any preparations, people usually do harm to their health. This is why it is crucial to properly prepare for the first time, so that the process goes smooth and gives pleasure to both partners.

How to do anal sex and how to understand if it is something you need in your private life?

Anal sex can be just a spontaneous fantasy but that does not mean that it doesn't have its fair share of advantages. Usually, couples start to think about having anal sex in order to spice things up in the bedroom because anal sex opens up a whole new array of emotions that regular sex just cannot compete with. Inside of a person's anus there are many very sensitive nerve endings which can produce very intense sensations during sex. Also, the anus wraps around very tightly around a penis. In short, the anus is an erogenous zone both for men and women and by refusing to try anal sex you are missing out on experiencing a whole new level of sensations. If you correctly prepare for it and do everything right, anal sex will provide you with a completely new outlook on sex and pleasure.

Preparing for anal sex – step by step

For anal sex to be without pain and bring pleasure, first we need to go through some preliminary steps. They don't take long and will make your experience safe and filled with pleasure.

Preliminary phase

1. Step – Discuss what you have planned with your partner
It is mandatory to discuss things with your partner before starting to experiment in bed. Both parties must want to try something new. It is not worth it to try and manipulate your partner into trying something new. Anal sex must happen in a safe and comfortable environment and both partners must be fully relaxed and ready physically and psychologically.

Step 1.2 - Evaluate your own feelings without your partner present
This is another step which you can do to prepare for the big event. Try to stimulate your anus by yourself at your own pace. By using toys or your fingers try to deduce how comfortable you are when your anus is being stimulated. After that is done, discuss your conclusions with your partner.

2. Step – Watch a video on how to do anal sex
The main thing here is that the movie cannot be a porn film! Do some research on what the best way is to massage the anus, what kind of foreplay is better in this case, suggested rhythm etc.

3. Step – Purchase all the necessary accessories
Lube is a must when doing anal sex. It can be water or silicone based. Keep in mind, that if you are planning on having anal sex in the bath or shower, it is better to use a silicone-based lubricant as water-based ones wash off very quickly. You can also purchase butt plugs, vibrators and other toys.

On the day of the event

1. Step – Empty your bowels
For the process to be more hygenic and enyoyable, it is recommended not to eat 2-5 hours beforehand.

2. Step - hygene
It is always recommended to go to the bathroom and have a shower before having sex. Usually, people wonder if it is necessary to do an enema before anal sex. Calm down, an enema is not mandatory, as, in most cases, it only provides emotional reassurance and nothing else. It is more than enough to clean yourself thoroughly with a shower. For this purpouse there are special anal douches.

Before you begin

1. Step – Create a relaxing and comfortable atmosphere
For everything to go well, both partners must be calm, relaxed and completely trust each other. If these conditions are not met, then the act can be painful and unpleasant. That’s why, turn on some music, light some candles, give your partner a relaxing massage and do not forget about the foreplay.

2. Step – Don't forget about protection
Remember, in your bowels there are a lot of bacteria which can cause swelling and sexually transmitted diseases. This is why a condom is mandatory when performing anal sex. Condoms also protect the penis from coming into contact with fecal matter that will be inside the anus (even after taking a shower and doing an enema). And yes, you will need to change the condom if you are planning to switch from having sex Anally to having sex vaginally.

3. Step – Start by stimulating the anus
It is not worth immediately "going into battle". It is necessary to prepare the anus first. For example, during classic sex, it is possible to carefully massage the anus with the help of a finger with natural or artificial lube. There is also another way to prepare for anal sex, which many couples love to try. With the help of butt plugs. They can be purchased in different sizes, and it is advisable to start with the smallest and then slowly increase it. We would like to emphasize that you can have anal sex only if a woman is fully prepared. If a man can, in the anus of his partner, insert three fingers, and the woman does not feel discomfort, then he can begin to fully engage in anal sex.

Anal sex poses

For the first few times, we advise, to have anal sex in the missionary pose. Later, using the experience gained, you can try to experiment with poses such as the horseback rider, on the side, or doggy style.

The main rules of anal sex

1. Always use lube when having anal sex.

2. Using a condom is mandatory during anal sex and it needs to be changed when switching to vaginal sex.

3. Do not rush and do not skip foreplay.

4. Empty your bowels and do not eat for 2-5 hours before the act.

5. Take a shower or use an anal douche or enemas.

6. If it hurts, then it is better to stop. We recommend that you come up with a safety phrase.

7. Talk to your partner to control your speed and know when to be gentler.

8. Do not use saliva, petroleum jelly, vegetable oil or baby oils instead of lube.

9. Do not be afraid if fecal lumps remain on the penis or your toys. You need to be prepared for this if you have decided to try anal sex. Remove the dirt with a napkin and take a shower. It's nothing crazy and there's no need to be afraid or ashamed of it.

10. Do not have anal sex if you have swellings, cracks or diseases of the urinary tract.